Welcome,
Care Partner.



Cassandra Wolf - self-care coach for caregivers

Welcome,
Care Partner.


Thank you for your selfless service to the people that need that love and care most!

Truly, you are a rare form of human being. And you deserve just as much attention, nourishments, and support that you give your clients.

That’s why I’m so happy you’re here.

You can consider me your Care Partner, devoted to helping you design a unique Self-Care Practice that suits your lifestyle.

Because in order to thrive as a caregiver, you need a solid Self-Care Practice that supports the pillars of your well-being--body, mind and soul.

You are relied upon to fill the gaps between health practitioners and family. You stretch yourself across the stage, filling all the roles while struggling to maintain boundaries and remain professional.

When you take your own self-care into consideration, your mind produces images of you at the gym, taking a nap, getting a pedicure, taking a walk or watching a movie with your feet up.

You put these things off because they are not Self-Care techniques that fit seamlessly into your lifestyle.


This is where that changes for you.




Here, you will begin to recognize and honor the signs and symptoms of “compassion fatigue” and "caregiver burnout" to see them as an opportunity for transformation. To do things differently. To find the space for YOU. To disrupt the cycle of burnout.

You have an impeccable Self-Care Practice hidden within your daily experience. This is where you find it.


I’m on a mission to

revolutionize the way caregivers care for their clients by giving them the tools to deeply care for themselves. So that together, we can create a world where the elderly and disabled receive care from healthy caregivers that is conscious, authentic and rooted in purpose.

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I’m on a mission to

revolutionize the way caregivers care for their clients by giving them the tools to deeply care for themselves. So that together, we can create a world where the elderly and disabled receive care from healthy caregivers that is conscious, authentic and rooted in purpose.

My Journey as a Caregiver & How I Started Making Space for Self-Care


I knew from an early age that I wanted to work in a field that cared for people. Growing up, my mother was a Medical Records Clerk and would share endless stories of anonymous people and their harrowing stories of navigating illness and the medical system. I held these stories close and thought deeply on them. One day I thought to myself, “How can I get even closer to these stories than my mother did? “By working directly with patients!” I told myself.

I graduated from Kaplan University with a phlebotomy certification in 2008. After 1 year of working in the fast paced environment of a hospital, I decided that I was not satisfied. I wasn’t close enough to those stories my mother had told me growing up. I thought, “Now, there has to be a way to get even closer to patients stories.” I knew I would not find what I was looking for in a hospital.

What happened next would change the course of my profession and my life.

I gravitated to an ad in the newspaper that read “Quadriplegic man needs care assistance 5 days a week from live-in caretaker”. The term quadriplegic made me think immediately of the famous Christopher Reeve. I had no idea what it meant to be paralyzed, to be in a wheelchair, to be permanently disabled.

I was hired on April 1, 2010. Every moment of being around Mitch felt like the first time and I quickly learned everything I needed to know to tend to his physical form.

As our connection deepened, his needs became my own. Caring for him meant I was caring for myself. By placing his needs before my own, I had discovered a new and vibrant sense of purpose. What I did not realize is that ignoring my own needs would have devastating consequences.


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I was creating a reality where burnout was unrecognizable.



Mitch's mother was my only respite and once her health started to deteriorate, I did not think twice about stepping into service 7 days a week. All I needed to survive was food, shelter and peace of mind that Mitch was taken care of.

One year after Mitch's mother passed away, he was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer.

My own self-care needs were far from the realm of possibility. I was depressed and socially isolated. I kept going because of just how dedicated I was to Mitch and his family.

We had heard of people preventing cancer from a healthy diet and had hope that we could reverse his cancer if we did the same. We started spending a lot more time in the kitchen together.

We started choosing our foods with color in mind. Red for antioxidants. Orange for immune support. Yellow for detoxification. Green for building healthy cells. Blue for destorying free-radicals. 

I made dense, green smoothies, raw salads and hearty soups with loads of vegetables. We ate exotic fruit such as guanabana, dragon fruit and cherimoya everyday.


I was feeding my body healthy foods without also changing the ways in which I took care of my mental and emotional health. I was headed straight toward total burn-out.


Every cell in Mitch's body was reaping the benefits from a healthy lifestyle right before my eyes. And me? I got sick often. I was tired all the time. I struggled to maintain basic bodily needs. I was disconnected from my body. I was completely isolated.

Though Mitch’s cancer went into spontaneous remission, he was quickly faced with another debilitating challenge. His caregiver was burned out.

I was leaving little space in my life for the care of my own body, mind and soul. And so I was paying the price mentally, physically and emotionally. I continued to care for Mitch until he passed away in January 2015 from complications relating to his quadriplegia.

In the months following his passing I continued to integrate healthy ways of eating into my daily life. Everything Mitch and I learned together-- I ate it, breathed it and lived it.

I was living on the best possible whole foods I could find and running 6-7 days a week. I still found myself feeling on the brink of burnout! I was disorganized all the time, I was getting sick every other month, I was spending too much money on trying to be healthy. I was broke and broken. I was more overworked, overwhelmed and burned out than ever before.


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“What was I missing?” I asked myself. “I'm doing everything right!”


And so here I was, living proof that a healthy diet and plenty of exercise were not the keys to a healthy life.

And then, I had a fierce lady moment.

I threw away the idea that anything I could "Do" to try to be healthy was not the solution. What I needed was permission to just "Be". 

One day I closed my eyes and went searching for my inner-guidance system. I started giving myself space to truly breathe. Deep breathing exercises helped me to start feeling my brain, heart and back release tension that was keeping me at work while I was home. I had begun the process of tending to my most basic needs. Rest. Recovery. Relaxation. Mindfulness. True Peace.

Energy suddenly started to appear. It didn’t take long to realize that when I cared for myself in certain ways, I had a greater capacity to care for others.

I started by taking a few minutes of space before and after clients, just for myself. In my car, on the sidewalk, outside my house in the grass—I started to believe that no matter where I was, I could tend to myself as if I were home. And this was the tiny tool that broke open a world of possibilities.

By taking the time to breathe and center myself before seeing clients, I was better able to keep pace with my own needs throughout the day.


Cassandra Wolff

Vitality.


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With the support of meditation, breathwork and practicing healthy ways of eating with diet and lifestyle, I discovered that I had the capacity to care for myself while I was caring for others.

I was entering a whole new territory of wellness. I became sharper, happier and more alive each day. Vitality was finally a reality.

I started truly caring for myself, and it was starting to show from the inside out.

I learned that in the process of giving care to others, I could strategically integrate my own needs in the dynamic environment of caring for others.

Now, I have created a Self-Care Practice that I show up for throughout the day, not just at the end of each day.


As I continued to expand my capacity to direct care to myself, caring for others came more naturally and felt less draining.



Now, I am inspired to share the wisdom that I have gained and prepare caregivers for the ever-increasing workload ahead. With an armory of dynamic Self-Care techniques, caregivers can have a positive impact on the future of home care.


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As I continued to expand my capacity to direct care to myself, caring for others came more naturally and felt less draining.



Now, I am inspired to share the wisdom that I have gained and prepare caregivers for the ever-increasing workload ahead. With an armory of dynamic Self-Care techniques, caregivers can have a positive impact on the future of home care.


Cassandra Wolff, Holistic Health Coach

Cassandra Wolff




Cassandra Wolff is an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and Professional Caregiver.

With over 13,000 hours of experience providing care to quadriplegics, she has become known in San Diego for providing Integrative Caregiving to dozens of quadriplegics over her 10 years of service. Rising from the trenches of caregiver burnout through healthy eating, mindfulness and breathwork, Cassandra is now a Health Coach on a mission to transform the way home-health agencies value their caregivers and the ways in which caregivers take care of themselves.

She is a graduate of Kaplan University for phlebotomy and Institute for Integrative Nutrition for Health Coaching. She lives in sunny San Diego, California.

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